I’ve been thinking about how important it is to be able to relate to one another and how crucial it is especially in a romantic relationship.
When you’re the kind of person who is always hard on themselves due to the life experiences and struggles you have had, it is particularly beneficial to be with someone who has been through similar experiences and is a mirror to you. Because when you look in that mirror, it speaks back to you the words that you would say to others but never to yourself. That’s a powerful and amazing dynamic to have with someone. It’s like you’re largely the same person and instead of wasting your words of power on someone who can’t relate and will never reflect it back, you’re with someone who actually will.
It’s like lifting each other up through shit and that’s love. Love is growing together. Love is overcoming challenges, love is understanding each other.
Think of it this way – life is hard to get through, and sometimes you just don’t have enough strength, but imagine if instead of just one of you, there were two of you to navigate through it. Double the power, half the headache and all the happiness.
To love is easy, but to understand is what is hard. A lot of people love each other, but they don’t understand each other. I don’t know if I believe in that kind of love. I just don’t.